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Most of us in relationships play all sorts of mind games. No matter how great the beginnings of the relationship might be, most of us end up in a power struggle with the one we claim to love.

Many of us fall into this trap - and events in the past couple of weeks has led me to believe that I have too.

But unlike most modern (’cool’) metropolitan types, I did not choose the path to exit the relationship gracefully.

It is apparent to me that something critical is missing from the relationship. And today, I happen to chance on Tom Kenyon’s article “Alchemy of Relationships” that has provided me a hint to the missing puzzle piece. [Read more]

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There’s an old Chinese saying, “how much you eat and how much you clothe is fixed in this lifetime.” Older chinese folks believe that everyone of us can only ‘hold’ so much wealth in our lives. For example, if you can hold $100,000 and then win a million bucks in a lottery, chances are, you’d lose 90% of it in good time.

The older I get, the more evidence I see, in myself and people around me, that this is the way things work.

So, should we just give up and accept what is?

Hell no!

Like any computer programming bug, there’s a couple of ways that you can ‘beat the system’ and get more from life. This post talks about one of them - going on a vibrational spending spree. [Read more]

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Every so often you’d find yourself dishearten with the state of the world around you.

If you’ve been reading this blog, I believe I’ve brought to your attention a few more dreads such as inflation and the growing weakness of our financial institutions.

My only intention in writing ‘dreadful’ posts is for them to serve as a ‘watch out!’ sign so you might take the necessary precautions. My intention is that you understand what’s going on and take relevant action. I do not want you to be dishearten and throw in the towel.

So, there will always be tough issues. You know them and you know how to go about dealing with them. Day in, day out, you go about your game plan. Then one fine morning while sipping coffee, you say to yourself, “life’s too tough.”

This is where simple pleasures come in. [Read more]

We have been on a quest for happiness for too long.

The adult version of happiness: I will be happy when I get that promotion, make a million bucks, marry that girl, buy that car, live there, etc.

The child’s version: I will be happy now, hahahahahaha.

Right this minute, I am seated comfortably at a cafe along Orchard Road, sipping a chocolatey mocha spin and finishing one of the best apple crumbles I’ve ever tasted. The wind is weaving through the greenery around me. The hustle of traffic ring in a distance. I stretch out my legs and took a deep breathe of the best air this city can give. I like to loiter the crowded stretch of Singapore’s shopping street because I think it’s the happiest place in the country.

No matter where you are and what you do, you can decide to be happy too, like the child.

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About a decade ago, I put together a retirement plan that will yield a monthly income of about $2,500 when I turn 65 in about 25 years.

The recent chain of events in the financial sector and global economies have set me to re-think that plan again.

This post outlines what these economic trends are and they will impact any retirement plan. [Read more]